ALCOHOLISM AND THE family of alcoholics: recovery of all

He wanted to wait for the other shoe to drop. . . . Everyday! I remember waking up in the morning and I was wondering today is one of “those days”. Would be my mother drinking today. When my mother drank it literally put our house in freefall. My parents say very often because my father did not like it when my mother drank well, he sometimes drank together. Unfortunately, I know firsthand how painful it is to have an alcoholic in the house. My mother was a beautiful woman. She was always very well maintained and kept seemingly spotless house. When my mother drank, she really turned into another person. To date, I think it is more then just alcohol that has transformed his normally sweet disposition into something that was unrecognizable. There must be a deeper problem that triggered his destructive behavior. She cared for my sister, dad and me with great love. We took comfort in the fact that there would always be a complete meal prepared for us and a warm smile at the end of each day. Of course, it was only the “good” days. Over the years, my mother’s drinking has increased. It would be very mean and nasty drunk. His normally neat appearance took a turn for the worse. When she was drunk, she would fight with my father and yell at my sisters and I have quickly realized that our mother was an alcoholic. We tried to encourage him to attend AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) meetings, but she resists. His denial and the belief that she had her drinking under control overshadowed all the complaints that we consistantly threw her. Even when she would give in and go to a meeting, she never continued with it. Alcoholism is / was extremely destructive to our family. As members of the family of an alcoholic, we learned a lot about our need to seek care for ourselves and our mothers. The dependence is far more mental then it is physical. The pain that causes alcoholism or drug addiction is just as bad as a physical injury. In many cases, the pain is worse because it is inside. I learned that the request for assistance is very important because the effects of living with alcoholism or drug addiction does not end when the person stops drinking or using. Changes in behavior or damage continues because of the fear passed, we pledged to try to cope with an addiction like. As with all things that we endure in life, this is not what happens to us, however, is how we choose to display and process what happens to us. Here we realize the true power of the mind and its ability to show us the way to overcome our shortcomings. Alcoholism and drug addicition is no exception to this rule. Do not ignore the need for external assistance needed. You do not take these outstanding issues with you in your future relationship. Your strength is not in your refusal, it occurs when your strong enough to scream for help.

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